My emotionally abusive ex boyfriend made a public post on Facebook telling everyone I’m emotionally abusive. Please help

Me (21F) and my ex (21M) has a really rough 3 and a half year relationship. Please read this, it will probably be long but I just really need some support. I really appreciate it if you do.

BACKSTORY: I always thought I was the one messing things up and doing/saying something wrong. He would constantly start fights with me, over the littlest things. I would always justify his actions because he had many tragedies happen in his life before he met me. He was a depressed person. I tried to be there for him as much as I could and he never seemed to appreciate it. Eventually every fight we had, he would be screaming at me and calling me the worst names. I soon realized he had no respect for me and he would even tell me at times that I was a distraction from his life. He admitted taking things out on me but only rarely. I really do believe that he is a manipulator and narcissist, especially after going to therapy. No one can confirm he has those things without meeting him, but my therapist did tell me he was definitely emotionally abusive.

He broke up with me two different times and both times, a month later, he convinced me to take him back. Each time i went back to him it didn’t feel right. Eventually I knew I didn’t love him anymore. I knew he wasn’t the one for me but I stayed because he was always going through a lot. During the second break up his sister died in a fatal car accident.

I was so broken for him. I helped him as much as I could. I truly wanted to be there for him and I know I did a lot for him. I would always be the one saying sorry when there was nothing to be sorry for. He really messed with my mind and made me think I was stupid. I stayed until I couldn’t take being yelled at and called names, and then having him go back to saying he loved me anymore. I was extremely depressed at that point. But I knew how depressed he was and tried to get him to go to therapy. He said he wasn’t ready.

I broke up with him almost a year ago now. Not only because of how he treated me, but also because I found out he slept with someone for a whole weekend after we first broke up. And without a condom, and he didn’t tell me. I also hated that he wouldn’t tell his best friend the truth about his girlfriend cheating on him. I thoroughly explained these things as the reasons in the nicest way I could and told him that I was still always there for him as a friend if he needed to talk to anyone.

A month before I broke up with him, I started a restaurant job and really became friends with a lot of the people there. I constantly felt like I was talking like an idiot and doing everything my ex said I do. But I knew everyone liked me there and saw me as a really good worker so eventually I became the most confident I’ve ever been just a month after breaking up with my ex. Soon enough, the guy I’m with now asked me out and we hit it off.

The guy I’m with now taught me how to be in a healthy relationship. He actually shows me constant kindness and respect, and never puts me down. Instead we talk about things and work them out quickly rather than having a fight that goes on for hours and hours on end.

Throughout the breakup my ex messaged me and would at first say sorry over and over again. He told me he felt so terrible for doing the things he did. Then after a while he would say horrible things about me all because I broke up with him months after his sister died. He continued to try and manipulate me but I saw through it all. We went months without him trying to text me and left off on bad terms, of course.

NOW: He texted me saying me and my family are in his prayers. I replied saying something similar and then he started a conversation to catch up. A while went by before I texted back and before I knew it he blew me up calling me horrible names, saying he hopes I rot and that I lack empathy. He saw my Facebook status that I’m in a relationship. I didn’t bother texting back because I knew he would make it an ongoing conversation and I don’t have anything to feel bad about.

I blocked him on everything after seeing him post “I don’t see how people can jump from relationship to relationship.Go see a therapist”. Meanwhile this is my SECOND RELATIONSHIP EVER.

My friend sent a screenshot of his post making me look horrible. It was basically about his past year being horrible, talking about how broken he was when his sister died and being in an emotionally abusive relationship with someone who blames him for not talking about what’s happened. Which is completely false. He is flipping things around when the truth is that I was pushing him to go to therapy. He also said that I left him for a cook (he went into my boyfriends Facebook profile). I’m still fuming mad and I don’t know what to do. The post has over 40 comments now with a lot of people I know. And they have no idea about the truth.

TL;DR- After I blocked my emotionally abusive ex, he made a post publicly to Facebook saying that I dumped him for a cook after his sister died. Also saying that I was emotionally abusive and blamed him for not talking about what happened when I told him to take all the time he needs to talk about things. I don’t know what to do now because if I defend myself on Facebook, I’m doing exactly what he wants me to do. If I “expose” him and write my side of things I’ll still look like a jerk. Please help, I really need some support. Thank you so much.

Submitted May 01, 2020 at 01:59PM by fmlhahalol https://ift.tt/2Wd3r9K