I am 2 years into a relationship with my GF. I constantly feel guilty and depressed about this relationship. She's a very good and kind hearted person...but she has absolutely no capability or independence whatsoever.
When we met she was a silver spoon baby, but as she wanted more freedoms to date given that I was older it caused a rift with the parents who paid her bills. She ended up living with me prematurely as a last resort to get some freedom.
My GF is a very wonderful person who has no idea how to function as an adult. I want to be clear i'm not complaining but giving examples that lead to my guilt. She can't find anything even with google maps. She constantly enters into terrible financial deals with no idea how much money is worth because she's only ever held part time work. She will order a pizza for me to pick up on the way home and end up sending me to the wrong store (this is a repeated occurence...4 times in the last month between pizza and Chinese food). She will tell me how awesome a driver she is...then get in a wreck. She doesn't know what insurance, vehicle maintenance or rent is worth in worked hours.
She is having COVID cabin fever and when I get home it becomes a second job entertaining her or getting her out of whatever financial fumble (like cosigning for a stupidly expensive car she can't afford with her parents who then demand she pays for it when she cannot). I felt like she was so dependent...that sex was criminal...and now I feel like a parent and not a boyfriend. I feel terrible that I can't hold any honestly positive feelings towards her capability to do anything. I'm scared she turned her back on a silver spoon to be independent like me...but I ever leave she will be homeless, helpless, and broke because she just isn't interested in learning or doesn't have the capability.
About 2 months ago we stopped having sex. I felt like I was violating someone who couldn't think straight. I felt like one of those guys who you have to pull off the girl who is drunk beyond the ability of consent...
I don't know what to do anymore. I want to help her...and even address this if I can...but I worry that bringing it up is insulting her. At the same time there is no way this works if things don't change.
TL;DR: I'm feeling guilty about how inferior I view my girlfriend and as a result I can't even touch her. We have stopped having sex and I can't broach the subject without it being a masive insult.
Submitted May 24, 2020 at 05:51PM by Bedimir https://ift.tt/3gm58e3
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