My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He lives with me and recently started a new job. We both worked in the restaurant industry as managers but he is now working in finance.
So at his old job he was working with a woman who would constantly ask him to hangout after work, call him late at night and make inappropriate comments to him. I told him aside from work I didn’t feel comfortable with him messaging or calling her which I think is fair. We had a conversation about it which he admitted if the roles were reversed he would be very uncomfortable and upset as well. After he left his job they still communicated while I was working late nights. I found this out after using his phone to send a message and their conversation popped up.
Now over the last few months these types of scenarios have happened with another woman from that same job. Who was just a friend that he made plans to go work out with. Same thing promised to stop, blocked numbers, I found out he unblocked and made plans while I was working.
I also saw he was liking a lot of half naked photos on his Instagram and sending money to women on cash app because they were apparently “struggling” and he was being nice. Am I being totally naive? I feel like an idiot. Every time I bring this up he gets mad at me and super defensive and threatens to leave or be done. Then after calming down is remorseful.
He has told me I can check his phone but I don’t want to feel crazy or have to do this. I have tried talking to him about how much it’s hurting me and he says he will change and that he won’t do it again but I’m not sure I can move on or even believe all of this. Anyone with some advice would be appreciated. Sorry if this was all over the place.
Tl;Dr -boyfriend has lied to me over communication with women who made me really uncomfortable and lied. Do I try to move past this or move on?
Submitted November 24, 2021 at 07:06AM by fukyokarma https://ift.tt/3HQOe5e
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