(UPDATE) My (27F) trust in our relationship with my boyfriend (28M) is broken. Can this be recovered?

part 1

I want to thank everyone who opened my eyes. But there is more.

After reading the comments, I decided to give a break in our relationship for 2 months. I stated my will, and he agreed. He said this way, he would be healed with the help of therapy, understand the inner rooted issues which cause this problem. We were on good terms, and decided not to break up, but strictly limit our contact.

After we spoke, he started to sweat and shake. When I asked him what was happening, he told me that he had something to tell me. And he told me these: There is this new girl in his office, and he found his eyes beautiful. He tried to make it look like a small thought, but when I asked him if he developed any feelings towards her, he started to cry and scream and beg me not to leave him, and that all of these was out of his control. He thinks that it is caused by relationship OCD, (his own thought, he had only 1 session with a therapist so far) this is why he constanly thinks that he is doing something wrong and overanalyses his feelings and thought processes. He says that it is not serious, but probably caused by some sort of rooted problem.

tl;dr

after we talked about what we should do and agreed on a solution, my bf said he finds this new girl in his office beautiful. and thinks that it is caused by an underlying issue.

Submitted June 23, 2021 at 03:04AM by azcntn https://ift.tt/3xO8EFZ