My friend had a crush on me in high school, never actually told me but told alll my friends thinking they’d keep it a secret. Was very obsessive for a long time. Thankfully he moved states and lost interest. Eventually we all ended up in the same state for college.
By the time we were 23 me and him had gotten in touch again and we are good friends. I was sure that there was no feelings involved from him since it had been almost 7 years, and I repeatedly hinted to him that were just friends and he even straight up asked me if I was trying to establish boundaries and I said yes.
Fast forward to now, he told my best friend that he was gonna ask me on a date. She told him she knows for a fact that im not interested, but he said ‘you don’t know her like I do’. I eventually told her to let him ask me on the date since it might just be better to bring closure.
But what pissed me off is he went around to almost all my guy friends telling them that we have ‘a thing’ and that I’m into him, referencing some bullshit about what I said/did and how it meant that I have feelings for him - these friends are much closer to me and I just found it unnecessary.
He finally asked me out, I told him I only see you as a friend and I thought that chapter was closed. Then he said oh it’s chill Its not like I’m that into you and insisted we stay friends and I agreed. A few days later I decided to drink for the first time in years and ended up very wasted, the next day all my friends told me that he was all over me, hands on my waist and thighs and just taking advantage of how drunk I was (he was completely sober). I decided to let that go anyway, since I wasn’t planning on drinking again any time soon.
But then I find out he’s again telling my friend that ‘no she’s into me, she just has a big ego and doesn’t wanna admit it. I’m gonna keep flirting and pursuing her’.......
So I decided to back off, and he called me and told me he’s disappointed in me for backing off and thought we were better friends. I couldn’t tell him that I knew what he’s been saying to my friend so instead told him I got the impression that he still thinks something might happen between us, to which he replied that I am big headed and silly for thinking he can’t take no for an answer??
He’s now pressuring me to still continue the friendship, texting and calling. Doesn’t help that we’re in the same friendship group so I still do see him a lot. I just feel very uncomfortable with him and the situation and don’t know what to do or say to him to get him to back off.
TL;DR : friend (23m) still insisting on ‘pursuing’ a relationship after I told him I’m not interested
Submitted June 22, 2021 at 07:47AM by idontknowstopasking9 https://ift.tt/3vMsHU8
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