So I (21m) turn 22 at the end of this month and so far I've only been in 2 relationships, the last one ending when my now ex gf cheated on me and got pregnant. This was almost 2 years ago and I've been on 2 dates since then. One was about 3 months after the cheating happened....the other was last week.... Without getting into my life story, I was a late bloomer ironically due to my mom not letting me out of the house, and I spent most of my teen years fighting suicide and depression alone in my room. Because of this I suck ass at dating (it's a miracle I have lots of friends) and I didn't have my first gf until senior year of highschool. I didn't have my first kiss or sex until a few weeks before my 20th birthday, and the sex was terrible because neither of us finished. We had to stop after like a minute because she said I was hurting her.
Anyways my family has increasingly become concerned with my love life. My mom constantly makes comments like, "Your not trying hard enough" even after I show her my EMPTY okcupid account or remind her of all the women that avoid me in the most elaborate ways (just ask) IRL. Then my sister jumps in and has been trying for the past few days to get me to go to a club or some shit with her. Both of them think it's 1855 and I can just stroll up to a woman on the street and somehow marry her.
This post is getting too long but basically I've tried EVERYTHING (minus bars and clubs) and this is the one area of my life that I just CANNOT get. The therapist I got said nothing is wrong with me (and insiuated I should download more apps), my friends think I'm hung up on my ex (I'm not) but otherwise genuinely think I'm simply not trying. I even got a "mentor" on a dating discord and he just tells me to shut up and ask out another girl whenever I consult with him. And don't even get me started on reddit advice. It's either toxic or someone insinuating you don't shower or have a job.
Tl;Dr I would like to date or have hookups like all my friends but it just never happens for me and it's even more depressing when you can't figure out the problem and your own family is on your ass like you never even made any attempts. Anybody wanna volunteer to help? I was thinking maybe I could make a private discord with 4 or 5 people willing to help me (so you can see my dating profiles, etc)
Submitted June 21, 2021 at 03:45AM by Awesometjgreen https://ift.tt/3iYX9rb
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