7 year relationship ends with divorce. I (36) learned so much about my husband (30) in the last two weeks…

So I’ve been married less than a year and my husband and I have been fighting because he hasn’t been paying his credit card bills, had been calling off of work, hiding alcohol and neglects me. Certainly not tools for a healthy marriage. I would catch him lying about alcohol and that coupled with his neglect, I’ve really reached my limit. Then I catch him not even going to work and lies about it. Then he leaves me stranded when I was locked out of my car, clearly he has no care for me at all. Then he tells me he doesn’t want to be married anymore. Ok I get it, he’s trash. He put in no effort, makes me pay bills and just walks away like nothing happened. What gets me is that he acts like I was the problem when the only complaint he had about me was that I’m annoying. And I was annoying because I would catch him lying lol. It’s the craziest, right? Anyways, I overheard him talking to a coworker and he basically admitted to going on a date with someone and said he “has not had sex with her yet.” Like wow. And he said that he would start arguments in purpose with me so he could leave. JUST WOW. All of the stuff he was messing up on and he had to cheat on top of it. I’m hurt and I’m basically crushed. How do you deal with this? Everything changed so fast (2 weeks) and now I’m left alone and just really in shock how all of this progressed from bad to horrible in such a short amount of time. To go from loving someone to enemies. It hurts. Bad. Anyone willing to share their experience or vent together feel free to send a message.

TLDR: getting a divorce but it hurts so bad. How can or how have you overcome cheating and learned to trust again? And how to deal with loneliness.

Submitted June 21, 2021 at 07:33PM by TalieRose24 https://ift.tt/3gViRtG