My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. We’ve had many arguments about various subjects but there is one specific issue that he always defends with the same point that is totally stupid to me.
So, this issue I’m talking about is how he can prioritise other people over me on certain occasions. For example, when I want to watch a movie with him but his best friend wants to call him and play, he goes with him. When it’s for small things like that I don’t really mind but sometimes he puts others before me for way bigger things (would be too long to explain even just one).
His argument is always the same one : “I’ve known them for longer than you.” And I always try to argue with that but it never works. He always uses it again and again. I feel genuinely ubvalidated because in fact, out of all his friends and acquaintances, I’m the most recent one. I’ve tried to tell him how stupid it is to base the value you give to people on how long you’ve known them for but he doesn’t see it. He says I only say that to put myself in advantage.
Please Reddit tell me how I can put down in words how stupid this is. I always fail to explain how ridiculous it is and it makes him feel validated in his views. (Sorry for the typos and mistakes, I’m on mobile and not a native speaker)
TLDR : my boyfriend uses the excuse that he’s known them for longer than me whenever he priorities someone over me. It has become his favorite argument and I struggle proving him wrong.
Submitted August 24, 2020 at 07:13PM by Gagaoulalaaa https://ift.tt/2CVp9JI
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