TLDR; how do I tell my ex-FWB that I just want to be friends after kissing him his last weekend?
So this past weekend I (22F) ended up kissing a friend of mine (22M). We have known each other for the past couple of years and were friends with benefits about a year ago. At that time I caught feelings, got hurt, didn’t tell him, and eventually got over it on my own. We’re still friends just not FWB anymore.
Fast forward to now. We have been hanging out socially distant and outside occasionally during the pandemic. He has made indications that he’s interested/attracted to me by calling me cute and asking to cuddle (which I passively brushed off). This past weekend we were hanging out (outside) when he asked me if he could kiss me. I guess in a moment of weakness I said okay and since then I’ve kind of regretted it, partially because that’s a stupid thing to do in the middle of a pandemic and also because it’s a stupid thing to do with this guy.
I’ve already started developing feelings for this guy again but I already recognize this pattern as being very similar to last year when we started being FWB. And because of this I already know I’m going to get hurt. I want to tell him upfront that I’m not interested in being his FWB again. A year ago it was fine because I wasn’t looking for anything serious anyway but now I’m really not willing to risk my health/the health of people around me by hanging around a guy who is not even romantically interested in me (even if he is careful about the pandemic too).
So my question is: is this an okay thing to tell him over text? Or should I wait til the next time I see him in person? I’m kind of scared to wait because I’m afraid I’ll lose my resolve and end up just passively accepting it (I have a hard time telling guys no because of emotional abuse from past relationships). Or should I just not tell him at all and just pretend it didn’t happen to preserve the friendship? I’ll also appreciate any input on a way to say this that doesn’t end up hurting him/friendship. Thanks!!
Submitted August 23, 2020 at 02:41PM by poofiep https://ift.tt/34vjQMr
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