Tl; dr Asshole: 38M to 44M Divorced man, 2 kids (14f & 17f)
Me: 34f, apparently clueless
We met while I was at an internship at an extremely prestigious program on literally the opposite side of the country. He said he deleted all apps and wanted to be in relationship with me. We decide to do long distance since I'm not from that area. I then return to my program which ends this May. He pressures me to start searching for a job there. Visits me here, then we met this past weekend for his birthday. Fantastic weekend. I managed my student budget so I could get him a fancy gift. It was so lovely...
We get to the airport and I'm running to catch my flight. He stops me and says I'm sorry this isn't the most romantic place but I have to tell you something. I think, awww this sweet idiot is going to tell me he loves me and then order an Oreo McFlurry because we are sitting next to McDonald's. Who doesn't fucking love oreo McFlurries?! He says, I had so much fun this weekend, but I have to be honest: I'm not 38, I am 44.
I then run to catch my flight and he's directly begind me. I walk down the hallway, turn around and say, Happy Birthday...I guess?
We texted and then talked for an hour after he landed at his airport. Apparently, he is insecure about his age. He also wanted to shield me from his 'awful' ex-wife because he knows I'm stressed from my program. I replied, "....and this isn't stressful?!" He refused to take responsibility for all of the lies, only that he lied about his age when he lied about his entire life.
He extensively talked about how hard it was to be a single dad at 20 (lie), how hard it was to immigrate with a toddler and infant (lie), how hard it was to be at BSchool with two kids under 4 (lie), how hard it was to be married for 14 years to someone who was 'crazy' (lie). There is so much more and I just...can't. The entire timeline of his life IS A LIE.
Lots of back and forth and now he's blocked. He went to this crazy place of ranting about how he hates stay at home wives and how expecting to get engaged after a year of dating is insane when he is the one who brought it up. His behavior was so bewildering that I literally had to stop and ask him what he was talking about several times. I am in engineer. I will work. I don't know what the fuck this is about.
I gave up a six figure job in fashion to pursue tissue engineering because my work ethic is endless and why not apply it to REALLY help people. I want to help people who lose vital organs to the challenges they face in life: genetic, accidents, cancer, anything. And I can do it. I know I can. My internship showed me how capable I am. They took me seriously. It was the first time I've felt that. Every cliche about my career change has been true. And global experts in the field took me seriously for the first time since doing this. I cried every single night I was there because of the ridicule I've endured for pursuing this, yet these people thought I could learn and maybe help someone down the line.
I'm not stupid and logically know this asshole should not bother me, but it still FUCKING HURTS. I don't know how to handle this. I didn't deserve this.
Submitted October 02, 2019 at 04:07PM by strangerplants https://ift.tt/2oAW1js
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