Alright. This is a little long but I tried to keep it simple!
I know a lot of people aren’t keen on age gap relationships. So don’t let this small part cloud your judgement, though I feel like my boyfriends age influences some things.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year.
After 3 months together we got an apartment together, I know. We moved fast, but I needed a place to have as my own ASAP. It was either with him or without him, and he convinced me that it would be easier, and safer with him. We found a place, i paid the entire deposit, first months and last months rent. It cost me almost all of my savings.
Him and I switched off buying furniture and other necessities. But I always ended up paying the utilities, the majority of the rent, and groceries.
A couple months in I decided to apply to some schools in an area over 1,000 miles away from where we lived. I got accepted in April and we decided when our lease was up in January we’d move down there so I can start that spring.
He’s been telling EVERYONE about the move since we decided; coworkers, corporate, friends, family, acquaintances. Everyone knows..
We talk about the move frequently, we visit This City a couple times and plan future visits. I am constantly mapping out how we need to save/earn more money and how to go about it. I’m a capricorn; i’m anal as fuck about all of this.
2 weeks ago, mid september, we start talking about the money situation. He has nothing saved. And I mean like $73 in his bank account with the next paycheck being in a week. And he really wasn’t even making efforts to save until that exact moment. My mind was blown. I felt entirely betrayed. He has credit cards he needs to pay off, but I pay most of the rent as well as some of my moms bills ($400+ a month). And I’ve still been able to save over two grand.
I really haven’t felt the same about him since, I just feel lied to and kind of used. I know theres still 3 months until we leave, but there are so many expenses we’re going to have to pay in order to get there and get a place. He apologized and signed up to do ubereats, but still hasn’t done it after getting his start up kit.
Is this even worth my time? I feel much older than I really am in this relationship. I need honest opinions and thoughts.
TL;DR I thought being with someone older than me would make things easier, that I wouldn’t have to be the only responsible one. But my boyfriend is financially irresponsible, putting all the weight on my shoulders. Am I wasting my time?
Submitted October 02, 2019 at 12:56PM by 666princesss https://ift.tt/2oyIF7q
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